However, this is the first wedding I've attended since the divorce and I knew it would be tough. I absolutely adored the officiant. She offered a different spin on the traditional vows and she definitely got me thinking. I knew that my heart would hurt hearing those words, knowing that those promises weren't part of my life anymore. I remember hearing those words and fighting back tears, trying to keep it together. Part of them were happy tears watching J & S become husband and wife but the other part was a little bit of guilt. Knowing that my marriage failed and hearing those promises that I once said to someone that I thought I'd spend the rest of my life with, cut me to the core but also reminded me that love is real. Love is pure. Love is all around even when you don't think it's alive anymore. Love sneaks up on you when you don't expect it. Love is patient. Love is kind. Love is life.
I'm really glad to have gotten that "first after divorce" checked off my list and I couldn't be happier for the new Mr. and Mrs! It reminded me to let my heart grieve what once was but be open for what could possibly be and trust me, I'm ready. It's scary putting myself out there again but I'm ready for what comes next!
Attending a wedding after your divorce can be difficult. But even though this day brought you to tears - both for joy and grief, it also helped you arrive at the realization that you’re heading to the right direction. Also, started to accept the truth that one day, you’ll able to find happiness once again. And I’m sure you’ll manage to do just that. Stay strong!
ReplyDeleteSammy Jackson @ KenPhillipsLaw
In my opinion, attending that wedding is a good decision for you. It serves as a test for you, to see whether you've moved on completely from your divorce or not. And I’m glad that you passed with flying colors! It’s a good start; and I hope it will continue to stay that way. Stay strong!
ReplyDeleteGregg Jackson @ Sherrill & Cameron, PLLC